Nothing touches the pain. I am lost in the world without my son. It seems so empty. He was my firstborn child. I felt him move inside me. I nursed him for a year. He is gone. I hate to have people ask me how I am. I will not be OK again. I will not kill myself, but each day I go through is a day without my son and it feels pointless. Sarah, I am so sorry for your loss of your precious son. When my husband died 3 years ago I found a grief group that has helped me more than I could ever say.
Some places even have specific groups for the loss of a child. I have found that no one can understand your grief like someone else who has been through it. Wishing you comfort and love. I just saw this comment. I lost my best friend a few years ago and just lost my cousin this week to suicide. They were not my children. I can not even start to understand your pain. I am a mother and these things just touch me in a different way because of that.
You are so strong and it may seem pointless but you are strength for someone…I know it. I lost my dad last year in May. It was such a shock! I realised now that I was so strongly connected to him and he was my source and center. I feel lost now and without energy. Before I was able to live and work and survive but now I feel alone without strength. I realise that I got so much from him even the will to live and a purpose. Never understood his value until he was gone. He was a great man. He was a preacher, writer, sportsman, finance advisor and so much more.
He looked well after us 4 children. Now I have 4 children of my own. Now I must face life without his support and strength. It is difficult without him and I still grieve especially these days coming into the new year. At times I feel like joining him and find no reason to go on. But I am still here and holding on. Thanks for your words of comfort. Sorry for your loss of your father. Our Relationship was rocking the last year. But I am Thankful I got to talk to her one last time b4 she died!!
Praying I can find a Grieving Counselor soon, to tell with all these emotions!!! Jesus Help Me!!!!! She laid in a coma for 4 days but thank the lord I still have her and she is doing fine now but two weeks to the day she went into her coma my father my hero went into his own coma and died a few days later. The four days my daughter slept my daddy sat with me all night each night I was at the hospital. I have been in a dark place since this all happened then 6 months later my niece also she was my best friend my sister and daughter all in one at 30 years old with a set of twins in her belly fell out and died out of nowhere its like how can this all happen in one year 6 months to be exact..
But my heart is so torn apart I feel like its giving up.. He did a wonderful job taken care of his mother and mentally challenged sister. With all his injuries and knee not healed because of no family member cared to help. Those people will have to live w the fact that they stood aside or stood in the way… the injured and loving son gets to live knowing he gave his all. Knowing you gave your best is a blessing beyond comparison. The son is a blessing and blessed.
Now as im growing up to become a woman it hurts more than what i felt when i was growing up because she will never get the chance to see her grandchildren. The pain is just too much to handle to the extent that i wish i could have been the one in her place. She might have passed away along time ago but my heart will never heal from that because everyday feels like her death happened a few hours ago. I will always love my mother. Thank you so much for this page its makes our burdens lighter. I am so sorry for your loss. I too lost my mom it was earlier today and I am in shock and consumed by grief.
She died in my arms this morning just 6 days after we first were told by the doctor she had stage 4 cancer. All i feel like doing is dying too so I can join her. It is almost night now and my feelings are the same. Just the thought of having to face another day and try to continue to work so I can have a roof over my head fills me with fear and dread. At present I am out of wet cat food for my 2 kitties and the thought of just a simple short walk to the grocery store also fills me with dread.
I must sound so silly but it is the truth. I have no desire to live another day let alone go to the store. My son graduates from community college tomorrow and I will need to force myself to get it together and hide my despair and find the strength to put on a brave face so I can make it thru the ceremony. My mom has a big dark colored fish that is over 20 years old and she loved her pet fish so it is important to me that I take very good care of her dear pet in her place.
Life truly is stranger than fiction. I truly worry I will have a mental breakdown if all that I am feeling does not get better. Sorry for the long rant as I initially wanted to just say how much I relate to what you typed about how you are feeling. No need to show your stupidity…. My Dad died at 69…and no one had any more grief than I did. Just let people express their empathy…. Thank you for these quotes and the comments from others who are going through grief.
I lost my Husband on Feb. We were in an airport in Mexico ready to board our plane home when he said he felt dizzy and was going to faint. Those are the last words he spoke to me …he passed away in the emergency room. So unexpected, so devastating, so far from family. It has been almost 9 months and now I can finally say his name without crying, but there is a part of me that is gone and will never be the same.
I am moving through what is left of my life trying to find purpose and hoping to once again feel joy. I am lonely , I miss having him by my side, enjoying our life together. We had so many plans, places we were going to see, looking forward to having time together just the 2 of us…but now I must move forward alone. PJ, I lost my husband 6 and half years ago on July 16, in the same manner. Fortunately, I was not out of the country but in ND, I am originally from Florida, we were moving to his home state.
I still cry and grieve for him. He was everything to me, my life, my dreams…life is definitely not the same. But hold on love, there are good times to be had, I have my children and grandchildren and they help so much. I think it is amazing that the baby, now 7 remembers his papaw and often tells me that he misses him. He was only two at the time his papaw passed away. Sometimes we just sit for a moment in the rocking chair and hug and remember a man that meant so much to so many.
I will not tell you that the grief ever completely goes away, but I will tell you that after awhile you begin to see the good in things again and life goes on, and eventually you find happiness and special moments again. I keep my husband near me, in my heart at all times and I know that as long as I remember him, he is with me. One day we will be together again and I know that he is waiting for me, his last words to me were I love you see you tonight, tonight never came he died while at work from a heart attack, but I know that he loved me and he knew that I loved him, take comfort in knowing that your hopes and dreams are still with him and that he will forever be in your heart.
Best to you, I pray for peace and blessings for you. May God comfort you. It breaks your heart and soul. Leaving you questioning everything that is on earth. Questioning even the life you have. It is really painful cause it breaks you from within.
Hold it close, Hold it Dear. Smile at a newly budding rose.. My Princess.. My mom died May 6th of this year. We never had a good relationship, but we had so many problems. My mom never hugged me, never said hello, never liked me as her own. I was never a bad girl, just longed for the love from her. But I still longed for a hug. I never got it. Not even at Thanksgiving or Christmas. I never got a Happy Birthday from her The past 5 years.
She never wanted us 3 girls, never wanted a relationship with us. Her death has left such a big hole in my heart. We never did. Her last phone message to me was horrible, and unbelievable. I just read your comment about your mother. I swear to God I thought you were talking about me and my two sisters. We lived the life you are speaking of and sadly we do not speak to each other at all.
It is so sad to think a life passed and so much hurt and regret and endless questions still exist. My sisters name is Jodi. I really think this is about us. God bless you. He was only He fought so hard for 2 years, he loved his life, our cats and he loved me. I would give anything to see him walk through that door again. I miss him terribly. My husband was Survived 22 months, it was ahead will and lots of work but he lost his life July 17, I lost my husband on February 12, to pancreatic and liver cancer.
He was He was diagnosed and died 35 days later. We were married for 10 years and I miss him more and more everyday. Our home is not the same without him. I will always love him and will keep the memories close to my heart. I hope this pain get easier but right now I feel if I lost a part of my heart,I love you randy.
One of my best friends died Monday night July 31, We had been in a relationship for 15 years, but had not seen or talked to each other for almost a year, because of a falling out. I have to tell you that I have never experienced the type of absolute overwhelming grief like I did yesterday when I found out that he had died. When we would have a disagreement…. This is going to be one of the hardest things in my life to come to terms with.
I am 42 lost my husband in a tragic accidentwhen I was 29…my daughter was 9months. I look and her and I crack all over again. I feel she was robbed of a loving father, of growing up in a nirmal happy family. I had to be brave and find a job so that we cld survive. Nothing makes me happyanymore. My son was murdered one month ago today. He was an attorney and was murdered by the ex-husband of a client that he represented in a divorce.
It was senseless, almost random. The killer then committed suicide and left his own two small children without a father.
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My son was married but did not have children. He was a good man, a good husband to his wife, a good son to his mother and a good brother to his younger brother. I am proud of the man he had become. At his funeral, all the other attorneys and judges said what a kind, gentle man he was. So why was he killed? I keep thinking that it was all a mistake or a nightmare and that he is alive and well. Then I realize that I am just thinking crazy and I fall apart all over again. Should you study?
Will it make you happy? Take 10 mins, quiet your mind and listen to your own body answer these questions. I wish you all the best. My mother-in-law died tragically 4 months ago and everyday seems to get worse. She had been going to the hospital to see and take care of her mom so much — who had just had a heart attack and then a blockage.
She went home to shower. I will always remember her last text to me that day while I was in class. I said I was leaving school soon and we would see her at the hospital. I called and texted as I was leaving…nothing…. A fire started in her home while she was in the shower and had no idea. I have nightmares of her trying to make it out like she did. The firefighters found her right inside the front door when they broke in the door. How scared she must have been.
Why would this happen to her? She deserved the world. She was revived 5 times from her home and to the time she died in the hospital 5 hours later. My M-I-L and I were very close. So close. She was the person who could say the littlest thing to make me feel better about whatever redic thing it could have been. She has been in my life- was in my life — my whole life, basically. I feel so lost as she was who I could talk to about my husband. We have been thru a lot. He was injured while in the military and she really helped us deal and get thru the days.
His mom was who he felt he had left. I go and hide to cry. The first couple months- I did anything to keep busy and I handled all of her final arrangements. I wanted to do it. Now that they are in school all day- I started from scratch and went back to school to get my pre-reqs. My mother-in-law was my biggest fan, biggest supporter of this.
She knew what it felt like to want that and not be able to. How can I do all of that and try to get thru each day without her. Thank you for sharing. Missing my husband. Now I am lost and lonely. It feels like I will never know happiness again. My son 7 Just keep asking questions and sometimes feeling down.. I have a hole in my soul over the loss of my mom, but I want her memory to be actively moving me toward filling holes that I can fill.
Five years back my best friend my soulmate for 25 years her thirty two year old son was killed crossing a road. My children and her children were always together. My children will never fully recover from this loss. I had never known sadness like this. What really has helped my friend and me to cope with his tragic death is that she has reached out to so many other children in need. By helping children of fathers who have committed suicide, we have found a purpose to lift them up by sponsoring for their education. I am a hospice nurse caring for people at the end of their life cycle giving support , caring.
You would think I would be better equipped with coping, but not so. I am living for Him and my God. God will never leave me nor forsake me. It is well with my soul. Whenever your dear is in the serious level of cancer or hearth attack and doctors has dishoped her this maybe ignite a little hop in you search and read about cryonics plz for your dear put this massage in anywhere helpful or if you wanna comprise with die watch the wonder of the universe documentary serials.
I nursed my husband for ten years with vascular dementia. I am so sorry. Sending love. I have PTSD from the loss of the love of my life 20 years ago- we were so young-I blame myself for not going with him that day. He was a great fisherman, he was very well known in Pinellas County Fl, Bahamas, Dry Tortugus and private islands owned by the rich and famous.
I was by his side as much as I could handle it but it was a Sunday we had been in car n boat accidents and was always blessed he was going with the owner and an eye doctor plus they had nitrox. I loved the family he worked for , they treated me like family. That is where I was waiting for them to come back from a dive trip. Bad feelings started coming which happened to be the approx time my husband was left down on the 3rd dive in the middle grounds-just cuz they wanted him to get a large hogfin — duh the owner of the boat and the doc did the 3rd deep dive with nitrox- needless to say my husband blew a cerebral and pulmonary embolism.
He beat them to the top. I was told I was still part of the family. I really needed them for closure. Instead they spent 3 mill on a guest house and begged me to take a couple hundred thousand for his life. I was a kid-stuck in a private room alone with the owner crying his eyes out being told I would still be part of the family and they would help me when I needed. Then I made it a year and met someone that reminded me of my love-I met him at a psychiatrists office.
We both thought we were not patients. I got married lost what widows benefits I had-and now have a permanent injunction that he is not allowed near me, obviously still not in my right mind I was diagnosed with a muscle disease and was told I would be lucky to make it to Next the temporary marriage created a wonderful sis in law of 12 years and she helped me so much mentally.
I will always love her and never thought I would lose her too. We were both experiencing the same medical problems and both diagnosed with cancer within 2 days of each other.
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I begged her not to get treatment 13 years of nurse-I see strong positive minds make it longer and more comfortable Being very religious and having a spouse and 3 children- they scared her they told her she would only make it 3 months without 5 with. Lots of prayers-she made it one year and the worst year I have ever seen anyone go through chemo.
At one point they said things had stopped growing so instead of waiting- they tell her its best to go on very strong caustic chemo to make sure it stays gone. I did get to see her one last time, unlike my husband. She looked so peaceful as she must have known it was finally going to be done. I touched her beautiful face-to my surprise-she opened her eyes and smiled like I remember seeing her.
She was taken to a better place at 10 pm that night. God bless u all. O Jody I read your life story and it absolutely broke my heart. My prayers are with you. May the Lord fill u with his peace and may u find comfort in his rest. I lost my big brother 5 Oct I am forever changed. Each day I live is one day closer to him. The worst are the dreams that his alive. This is one of my favorite. I have just lost the love of my life five days ago… He was on his way home from work when a drunk driver hit him head on causing the airbag to deploy and than setting the car on fire.
I am so lost and want to be where he is. I cry all day and the quietness of the house is unbearable. I miss everything about him. His smell, his smile, his voice,his touch…. I miss him holding me tight which always led to our love making more memories. The day he died is the day my heart was ripped out of my chest. Lisa, you are not alone. I lost my husband in a mountain accident 3 years ago. They will come back. Second piece of advice is to take great care of you, get counseling, whatever it helps for you to cry and let the pain and feelings out.
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The WYG website and resources helped me a lot, especially the podcasts. Hello Lisa, I am so sorry for your loss and my heart truly breaks for you. I even remember a distinct time this last year being excited for someone to leave and be on my own again, yet when they walked out the door I collapsed in tears. Why do I suck at goodbye?
Why does being alone again make me so deeply sad and emotional; even though I long for that solo life most days? It must be something to do with ending chapters in my life. Every time I travel with someone or stay with someone I consider it another chapter in my life. Even though I live in a constant state of flex and uncertainty, I must be terrified to start the next chapter.
Is the next chapter going to be the last? You have to find your own happiness. Leaving and change are emotional no matter who you are. After about an hour of sorrow, I push it back, wipe my eyes, quiet my mind, and push it to the back again until the next goodbye. Life is good!! Happy New Year! Sherry, this post is so pure in emotion and not only reminds us about goodbyes in the travel world, but in life.
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I got teary eyed reading your pos. I agree with your sentiments though. I start crying the week of a departure. We are very similar. I have learned to not be ashamed to show my emotions. Great post, it describes what a lot of us feel but cannot put into words. Gotta find that perfect spot in the middle. Yes, there are going to be tears with goodbyes. Is that so wrong?
I am getting much better at goodbyes these days, but I can certainly relate. I wish I could, honestly. It seems like it would show that you were more connected to your feelings. Pretty much exactly how you described. Both our nephews are in the province of Newfoundland, Canada which is where we are from and EVERY time we say goodbye the tears, the lip quiver, the gasp for air happens.
Must be the lack of balance or consistency, But either way, they both have their ups and downs. Life will never be perfect. Plus we have all these emotions for a reason. Emotional is a part of who we are. Guess we might as well accept it as normal. I cried for the first time in years when I said goodbye to my mom before leaving on my RTW. I guess I am human after all. I was a mess before I took off on my career break travels — then I ended up missing no one! I think I def. This reminds me of that scene in the movie, Singles where Matt Dillion is talking about how he used to live by the airport.
I hate goodbyes. I have to do it every three months with my boyfriend. We just stay kissing for as long as we can and mention the next time we will see eachother. Maybe I just had no concept of time? We did the long-distance relationship thing for a year, and I used to cry even before he left. Thanks for sharing Anis! I must admit — if I allow myself to think about goodbyes — I will also cry before the actual goodbye. The good news for you now is that you are together now forever! We both acknowledged that it could very well be the last time we were ever going to see each other.
And that sucked. I kept it together until I got in the car to drive home, and then I cried for about an hour straight. Emotion is emotion, and we should never be afraid to show it! Really, thoughtful post. I hate goodbyes too. Cool that you got to do that trip with your niece, good for you and good for her too!
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I experience the same feelings despite living independently for the past 18 years. Your article was spot on, thanks! WOW such a well written post. Me and my gf are leaving in about 45 days for a 2 yr rtw adventure. Im fortunate to be so close with my grandparents and speak to them weekly, but my biggest fear is losing them or other loved ones while Im away.
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