Sometimes we need to do unusual things. Many people with autism are very aware of their self-regulating behaviors. We hear you when you complain about us. Find other times to talk mean. Rule of thumb: Presume competence. Never talk about a person; talk to her, or if you must, talk about the individual in a respectful way in her absence.
Rudeness is not our intent. No sad faces, please. People with autism often have a frankness that can be both disarming and alarming.
Instead of making a facial expression you expect the person with autism to read and respond to, tell the individual, in a matter-of-fact but helpful way, that his choice of words or actions was not appropriate, and guide him to a better expression. Please find us inside bodies that work differently. Many individuals with autism feel powerless to control their bodies skillfully.
See us as real.
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We are not shells with no inhabitants. Treat people with autism as the whole beings with hopes, needs, feelings, and desires that they are.
With too much asking us to be normal, we feel like impostors. Part of accepting people with autism is understanding that their different brain wiring affects all of who they are and what they do.
Try to help us, not control us. There is no amount of consequating an autism-driven behavior that will extinguish it—no punishment, no discipline, no reward. Understanding what is driving the behavior will help you and the person with autism cope or come up with adaptations. What was not to love about that guy? And it makes me wonder… How many of us are struggling with something that reveals itself in such cruelly deceptive ways? We were not talking the same language and misunderstandings were the rule. I learnt the hard way what Asperger Syndrome was. Affected individuals display considerably impaired capacity for social interaction and communication.
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They need support and services in the areas of relationships, social care, living skills, respite and community integration, health, housing, education, employment, etc. Myths and Truths. Asperger Syndrome is demonstrated by deficits in communication, social skills and reciprocity of feelings.
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With limited empathy for others, connecting with a loved one is extremely difficult, so those with Asperger Syndrome go through life focused on their own needs and wants and often miss what is going on with others. There is no compassion or empathy for the struggles the other person is going through.